12 Steps to Freedom

1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

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As part of the psychiatry/neuroscience II module, we are required to attend an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. I went to one tonight about 10 minutes from where we live.

I was apprehensive about attending the meeting. I wasn't sure how to act and if I should introduce myself. "I'm Lindel and I'm not an alcoholic?" That didn't seem right. I didn't want to be perceived as judgmental. I didn't want them to think "Why is she here?."

As I walked into the building, I saw a room where a few people were gathering. Unsure if it was the right room, I stepped in and sat down. I then saw that everyone had the 12 Step Book with them and I was assured that I was in the right place. As I sat there waiting for the meeting to start, I was unsure of what to do. So, I started reading the 12 step book that was in the chair next to me, listening to the conversations around me, and contributing to them when I could (The extent of which was naming Simon as the third chipmunk of Alvin and the Chipmunks and remembering LaLa as one of the teletubbies.) Everyone was friendly and no one seemed upset that I was there. As I looked around, I was surprised at the amount and variety of people who were at the meeting. I had expected less than 10 people, and honestly, I had expected them to look...different. I'm not sure if I could have told you before this experience what I thought "an alcoholic" looked like, but I (ignorantly) expected them to be identifiable-- maybe a bit disheveled? looking like they've seen the harder side of life? I don't know. The people around me looked like people you would see in the grocery store, in church, at school. On other words...like ordinary people. I should have known better since I have a friend who is an alcoholic, but I guess I always thought that he/she wasn't your typical alcoholic. There were old, young, men, women, black, white, rich, poor....all different kinds of people.

The meeting started off with people around the room taking turns reading alternating paragraphs from chapter 11 of the 12 step book. This chapter/step is concerning prayer and meditation to gain the insight into God's will for you and how to accomplish His will. After the reading, people around the room would take turns giving their impression and thoughts of the 11th step. Some people spoke directly about how their thoughts on prayer and meditation. Others spoke about other issues tangentially related to Step 11. A lot of times, people spoke around their issue, never directly addressing it, which made it more difficult to understand.

Something that struck me was that no one directly spoke about their problems with alcoholism. Before anyone would make a statement, they would say "Hi, I'm ______ and I'm an alcoholic." However, none of them spoke directly about their problems with alcohol in the past, temptations they face in the present, or how they ended up in AA like I expected they would. It was a lot more focused on the individual step they were discussing for the night.

The meeting closed with recognizing people who's "anniversaries" of sobriety fell on today's date. There were two women -- one who had been sober for 1 year and one who had been sober for 5 years. The group then gathered in a circle, held hands, and recited the Lord's prayer.

This assignment really provided insight into who are alcoholics. By going to this meeting, I got the chance to see "the face" of alcoholism. It really can be anyone.